This question will literally change your life—literally.
How would the person you want to be act in this moment?
943,000,000.
That’s the number of Google results that pop up when I search, “how to be a better version of myself.”
On page one you’ll find titles like:
20 Ways to Become the Best Version of Yourself
6 Powerful Ways to Be a Better Version of Yourself
21 Tips to Be the Best Version of Yourself
You don’t actually need an elaborate 20-step process.
And you definitely don’t need someone else to tell you how to be a better version of yourself.
You already know what you need to do.
You just need to ask yourself the right question (and give yourself a chance to answer).
How would the person you want to be act in this moment?
Boom.
I guess the only caveat here is that you need to at least have a rough idea of the person you want to become. Once you’ve got that, this process becomes much easier. (not easy to act but at least you know which direction to move)
Here’s why I love this question…
It’s personal. Instead of endlessly scrolling through articles and tips hunting for something that resonates or grabs your attention, you’re going straight to the source—you. Who knows you better than you? What random stranger on the internet is going to give you the exact blueprint you need? No one. You have a very specific type of person you want to become. And, that specific person is likely riddled with contradictions unique to you which means that trying to follow someone else’s plan for becoming your best self just isn’t going to work.
It’s time bound. It can feel overwhelming to look at the gap between who you are at this moment and who you are trying to become. But these types of changes aren’t made all at once. There’s no magic light switch. Instead the process of becoming happens in moments that accumulate over a lifetime. This question is exactly what we need because it only asks us to focus on the moment in front of us. (think, Nick Saban’s famous question—what’s important now?”)
Decide the type of person you want to be.
Prove it to yourself with small wins.
(James Clear)
This question is your key to the small wins. As this question becomes more of a default response you will find yourself spending more time thinking about who you want to become —definitely a plus.
The other thing is that you will likely not actually act on your answer every time but even an incremental increase in acting on your answer will move you along the journey of becoming.
Stop scrolling in search of someone else’s advice for how to improve. You don’t need more advice. You need more asking.
Test it for yourself.
And, let me know what happens.
Keep Asking,
Kyle