The relationship element of this reminds me of an Elder Monson talk from Priesthood session April 2011 titled Priesthood Power. He speaks to young men and gives marriage council. The first fraise that stuck with me was "Choose your love and Love your choice" which makes me think of love not as the feeling, but as the action verb it should be. Side note, it reminds me of when Isaac first met and married Rebecca. He didn't know her previously but the verse describing their meeting and marriage says simply "and Isaac loved her" but Im sure it was a choice to actively love this new wife who he really didn't know, but desired to have a loving spousal relationship with.
Second fraise that stuck with me was for a successful marriage "it is far less about finding the one right person to marry, but rather about being the right person for the one you marry". Remembering this in a frustrating moment can be difficult, but well worth the effort.
I remember the exact talk you mentioned from Monson and think about that in contexts even beyond marriage. I like thinking about choice as something active because it's empowering.
Yeah, I've got a lot of work to do to live up to how far up I married!
I LOVE your last statement. We are complex beings and learning to embrace and understand all of ‘ourselves’ is much harder than we think at times. All we can keep doing is adapting, learning, and listening (to ourselves and others). I also saw a shirt recently that got me thinking along the same lines. Simple, one word, with a name. Nope. ~Rosa Parks.
Yeah, the more I think about the different versions of myself the more compassion I've felt for others. I love this quote from this Quaker writer: “Who am I? leads inevitably to the equally important question “whose am I?” since there is not selfhood outside of relationship."
The relationship element of this reminds me of an Elder Monson talk from Priesthood session April 2011 titled Priesthood Power. He speaks to young men and gives marriage council. The first fraise that stuck with me was "Choose your love and Love your choice" which makes me think of love not as the feeling, but as the action verb it should be. Side note, it reminds me of when Isaac first met and married Rebecca. He didn't know her previously but the verse describing their meeting and marriage says simply "and Isaac loved her" but Im sure it was a choice to actively love this new wife who he really didn't know, but desired to have a loving spousal relationship with.
Second fraise that stuck with me was for a successful marriage "it is far less about finding the one right person to marry, but rather about being the right person for the one you marry". Remembering this in a frustrating moment can be difficult, but well worth the effort.
I remember the exact talk you mentioned from Monson and think about that in contexts even beyond marriage. I like thinking about choice as something active because it's empowering.
Yeah, I've got a lot of work to do to live up to how far up I married!
I LOVE your last statement. We are complex beings and learning to embrace and understand all of ‘ourselves’ is much harder than we think at times. All we can keep doing is adapting, learning, and listening (to ourselves and others). I also saw a shirt recently that got me thinking along the same lines. Simple, one word, with a name. Nope. ~Rosa Parks.
That would be an awesome shirt!
Yeah, the more I think about the different versions of myself the more compassion I've felt for others. I love this quote from this Quaker writer: “Who am I? leads inevitably to the equally important question “whose am I?” since there is not selfhood outside of relationship."